Unsuccessful people are always asking, What's in it for me?”
Have you ever heard that quote before? That's what my dad always told me, I'm pretty sure he didn't hear it from Brian Tracy though. Sad but true, in the society we are faced with that harsh reality, there are helpful people and there are people who don't think of others.
Well in Jakarta for example, I think the cure to make traffic feels just a little bit better is that if EVERYONE be patient and follow the rule and not just think of themselves. Yes of course you're trying to be innovative by cutting ways ahead others or speeding through emergency lanes but does it really help you to get where you are faster? Maybe. If just one person think of that, but if most of the people think like they should go first in that small space then who wins? No one but everybody else suffers because of that act of selfishness.
Anyways, I'm not here to curse about Jakarta's world famous traffic congestion issue nor to comment on some narrow minded people point of view but to take a look at the successful people recipe. Well, from the quote above I note that successful people are eager to help others. So what's the side effect of such attitude?
1. What goes around, comes around
Do you believe in karma? I do, in my own way to the least. I think being good or in this case helpful, is one sure ticket that the goodness will come back to you. Not necessarily from the person you're being nice to but it could be in other form. If you make things easy for others, things will comes easy for you and vice versa.
2. Positive bank account
I got this from Steven Covey's 7 Habit of Highly Effective People training. Imagine each people as an emotional bank account, you interact with them and create emotional transactions. Being helpful is a positive note, or an inflow for your savings. On the other hand, being selfish is the same like drawing your savings or an outflow. It's said that it takes 5 installments of positive bank account to replace 1 negative bank account. So when you do something bad to someone, he or she might not forgive and forget about it until you replace it with 5 kindness.
In relation to being helpful, I think it's a way to invest positive bank account in people you meet. The more you invest in a long run might turn into a savings with high interest. You might be earning from the interests of your savings one day.
3. All for one and one for all
It's not just a cheer for the musketeers but also for the successful. I realize in order to grow into greatness, you can't do it alone. Sure we've seen superheroes that works independently, like Batman before he met Robin. But actually, Batman has always been supported by Alfred the super confidant. There's always someone else that needs to support your cause so you can rock the stage like Iron Man with Pepper Potts' help.
Well, successful people are similar to those superheroes. Who is Lady Gaga without her little monsters? I'm pretty sure she's thankful for those little monsters who works hard and save their earnings from their jobs to be able to watch her live from the pricey monster pit in her live show. Or Steve Jobs and his I'm an Apple Cult that successfully invented the iPod, iPhone, iPad, and finally iBroke.
Successful people are unconsciously constantly promoting others to the way of their success instead of envying them because they know that they earn with others success. You jump, I jump said Jack to Rose or in better words of Theodore Roosevelt "This country will not be a good place for any of us to live in unless we make it a good place for all of us to live in." - Theodore Roosebelt, 26th President of the United States
4. Helpful people are happy people, and happiness is the key to success
Let me explain this by two quotes below.
"Happy thoughts of all kind - loving thoughts, thought of tranquility, of compassion, kindness, generosity, and warmth - produce a corresponding state of healthy psychology because neurotransmitter produced by those thoughts have a stimulating effects" - http://www.wcmhar.org/tch.html
We can consider being helpful as a thought of generosity and it stimulates the "happy hormones"
“Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.” - Herman Cain
And apparently it boosts the positive attitude that can lead to success too.
5. Any other thoughts?
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